Some basic lesbian sex positions are fairly intuitive, depending on what activity you’re interested in: going down on someone as they sit or lie down, or touching/penetrating someone’s genitals in really any variety of positions where you can comfortably access them. It helps to have a bit of an imagination. Take what applies to you, and leave the rest. And remember as always that your bod is unique and rad, and you can do so many things with it. Remember that the possibilities are pretty much endless, so there’s no exhaustive list. Now, how do we go about deciding what positions to try? Rather than giving you a shortlist of what I think you (and your body I know nothing about) should try, here’s a quick little roundup of some of the good stuff that’s out there so you can decide for yourself. So we’re all getting pretty hip with all the why’s in switching up our sex positions. is sometimes the only way to find what really works for you, or your partner. Switching up angles of penetration, intensity, speed, etc. Every person’s body is different, it would be naive to think that everyone’s is in the exact same place, with the exact same sensitivity to stimulation. When it comes to hitting the spot, there’s no direct map to the famed G-spot and the perfect orgasm.
What feels good, or is feasible for one body may not work entirely for another - and really, why contort your body to unfavorable conditions if it’s not doing anything for you? By switching up our positions we can achieve different types of orgasms, and find the things that our bodies need to feel good. Maybe some of our bodies threw their back out at work last week.
Sex is supposed to feel good! All of our bodies are different and want different things. The biggest reason for switching things up in the bedroom is also maybe the most important. It’s a way to advocate for as little or as much as we may need, rather than settle for what we think we can get, or what we think we’re supposed to want. In changing the ways our bodies connect or approach one another, we’re exerting our agency over the situation. For others, that connectivity and intimacy is a key part of sex. For example, in a casual encounter, one might not want face-to-face intimacy the way they might want with someone they are deeply connected to. The ways in which we choose to position (or not position) our bodies during sex allows us a level of control in seeing and being seen by another person. Switching into positions we might otherwise automatically go-to is a great way to find new erogenous zones or kinks, and hell, that’s just fun. What works one day might not work for us years later. We (and our bodies) are forever changing we get injured, or more flexible, or change shape or size. It opens the door to finding new parts of your bodies to explore, new sensations, and new ways of seeing each other. A little creative positioning can help you find new things that turn you on. Finding new ways to fit with your partner keeps things fresh and new, and gives off that feeling of excitement that can all-too-often get lost. Though it’s entirely true that boredom isn’t the only reason to switch things up, it’s also true that sometimes, the same scenarios get old. Pleasure-focused sex unleashes variety in your sex life, and that is a beautiful thing. No two bodies are exactly the same the ways we go about fitting them together shouldn’t be either. There’s a common idea that switching up your lesbian sex positions is indicative of boredom. That doesn’t have to be true the fact of the matter is sex should be mutually satisfying, and trying out new positions might reveal a way for it to be more so! That’s all it isn’t a condemnation of how you’ve been doing things previously.
Throw in some sex toys, throw in some sex tools, throw in a good bottle of lube - hell, throw a third or fourth person in the mix! I like to think of it as letting go of what we think should feel good, and adapting to what actually does. First, let’s talk about what our priorities are when we’re choosing literally how to do it. So often position guides focus on genitals-on/in-genitals when in reality there’s a million ways to smoosh bodies together. Folks have likely been finding creative ways to do so since we started hooking up. The way we shape and shift our bodies to fit to one another can be one of the most fundamental parts of sex and intimacy.
We’ve all peeped a cosmo article about “spicing” things up when we’re “bored” in the bedroom, but there are a number of reasons why switching up your lesbian sex positions (and locations!) can be beneficial to you and your partner(s). One of my favorite ways to make good sex great is in switching things up a little bit.